During our daily struggle with post traumatic stress disorder, social phobia, or any other anxiety disorder, we tend to think that just getting by is enough.
We figure that as long as things don’t get too out of control that we can just get over it. But how do you know when enough is enough? How do you know when it’s time to see a therapist?
This is an important question to ask yourself. Because even with all the knowledge and good intention in the world the truth is sometimes you still need help.
You may have relied on a good friend or family member to confide in and help you during those bad days, but when should you try something else? What are signs that you may need professional help?
There was an article in the San Diego Union Tribune that answers this very question and I suggest you read it if you have a minute. But if you’re short on time then let me give you an overview of what the article describes as the 7 signs that you may need to see a therapist.
1. You’re using drugs or alcohol to cope with your anxiety.
2. You are experiencing a high degree of irritation and anger and as a result you are having a difficult time getting along with others.
3. Grieving as a result of a loved ones death or lost relationship.
4. You have experienced physical or emotional trauma.
5. Uncontrollable crying and other signs of depression .
6. Anxiety that is so intense that it is stopping you from doing the things you like to do.
7. When doctors can’t explain your symptoms or attribute them to any specific medical condition.
In addition to the articles comprehensive list, let me add a few additional signs that would suggest that it may be time to go see a therapists.
8. If you have tried “everything” to get better but find yourself in the same position after months or even years of trying to cope by yourself.
9. If no matter what you do you can’t get out of your mental rut. This is a sense that nothing gives you fulfillment. It would be wise to explore why you have this feeling.
10. If you feel bad about yourself. If you have serious self-esteem or confidence issues this can adversely affect you. It would be helpful to identify what it is about you that you don’t like and find ways to improve your perception of those perceived flaws. A sense of positive self-worth can do wonders for your everyday happiness.
My first time seeing a therapist was during my junior year in college. It was a difficult decision for me to make because I was afraid of being judged and labeled. However, after only my first visit I felt like someone had removed a huge weight from my shoulders. Sometimes you need a trained professional to not only evaluate you, but also to provide guidance and a sympathetic ear.
I have tried in the past to speak with people I knew about my anxiety and felt like they not only did not understand but also like they really didn’t care. Now this I don’t think is malicious intent, just ignorance. Have you ever talked to a drunk guy while sober? It’s kinda like that. So don’t be afraid and if you think you need it then chances are that you do. If you need help finding a therapist click here . And remember that there is no shame in seeking help, ever.
Nancy says
Hey!
Great stuff! Very well explained and helpful! Superb writing! Thanks for this!
-Nancy
p.s. I wrote one here as well anxiety therapy! Check it out!
Paul Dooley says
Thanks Nancy. I appreciate the feedback.
Shay says
Thank you for writing this. It was extremely helpful for me in my decision to see a therapist. I appreciate it very much.
Paul Dooley says
Hey Shay, I’m glad that the article helped you out. It can be hard to take that first step, but it’s worth doing.
Rich Klina says
Hello Paul, thanks for the great article. I have been back and forth trying to figure out if I should go in to see a therapist and this really helped.
Rich
sally says
hi Paul
Its so cool to read this article but it so hard to read the exact same things that i am going through
Im hurting so much as a result of a not official breakup with him.. Really thought i was sstrong but oviously no
Can u help get a therapist
Paul Dooley says
Hey Sally, Try this link: https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/
Ruthie Williams says
Thank you! this was very helpful in making my decision to see a professional.
Jane Ambrose says
My really good friend told me that she is thinking of seeing a therapist for some of the issues she is facing, so I thought I would do some research on if it really is the right thing for her. I had no idea that your anxiety stopping you from doing things you want to do is a sign that you could benefit from seeing a therapist. It seems as though finding the right therapist is an important step to making sure you get the correct treatment. I’ll be sure to share this information with my friend and hopefully help her find a place to get treated by a professional. Thanks!
Ridley Fitzgerald says
I can see why a psychologist is a good idea in these cases. My older brother has pretty bad social-related anxiety, and it’s definitely stopping him from going out and doing the things he likes to do. I’ll suggest that he go see a specialist.